Connection - Peaceful Fathers

A Fathers Guide To Help You Raise Kind Children.

I will not tell you if you’re kind to your kids; they will be…

Making Real Connection With Your Kids

What has become the “normal” way of parenting has created more disconnect than we…

A Time to Build

How can we create and preserve a healthy connection with our children? We need…

The Rules Of My House

It would be great if our kids just listened! We have a big problem…

A Need For Better Fathers

In these past years, I have spent many hours speaking with good men about…

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- Fatherhood
- October 7, 2020
A Need For Better Fathers

In these past years, I have spent many hours speaking with good men about becoming better fathers. These have been some of the best conversations of my life. My strategy comes from the philosophy of peaceful parenting. This is much different from the traditional methods that our parents raised most of us and how many raise their kids now. Being a better father takes a lot of hard work and is often undervalued in today’s world. For me there was no greater path to masculinity than becoming a good father. It is challenging to break bad habits. Especially when we start examining the data and environment, we are creating in our home. Most parents are on the authoritative side of things, with almost 90% of parents still spanking their child as a form of discipline. It is easy to ignore all the studies and all the negative outcomes attributed to spanking your child, but it is painful to face the truth. Ask your child how it feels at that moment, what they were thinking and what did they learn. Imagine if we asked the person we were striking with our hands how this made them feel and owning those actions,...
- THE POLITE SAVAGE
- March 13, 2019
My journey in becoming a peaceful father.

My story started over 12 years ago when I decided to listen to that little voice in my head that was telling me I needed to start taking care of myself. I needed to focus more of my energy on becoming a better dad but also a better person. I made a choice to raise my 3 children peacefully and wanted to learn as much as I could about giving them the greatest chance at having a happy and healthy life. In an attempt to help prevent my children from experiencing all the dysfunction and pain I was seeing in the world I knew I needed to start with basic principles like no hitting, no spanking, and no punishing. This was not a common parenting method at the time and I really did not understand why so many people were not embracing and implementing these positive ideas into their families. As I started my journey and started reading books, articles, and listening to podcasts on peaceful parenting I knew this was the path that I needed to go down. I learned many valuable lessons and one of the most important was actually not about being a father or parent but,...
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- December 19, 2020
A Time to Build

How can we create and preserve a healthy connection with our children? We need to understand a few standards that will help us get back into an acceptable role as a father. There will always be conflicts in your home, which can bring up a lot of pain and frustration if you don’t follow some simple rules. You should never take things personally. You are the father and the adult in the relationship, so the burden of responsibility will always be on you. This doesn’t mean you can demand and order your child around. The purpose is to take ownership of your duties as a father and not blame mishaps on your child. It doesn’t matter how you see things. A healthy and functioning relationship always takes the work of two people. If your child thinks you see them negatively, you will not have a positive influence over them. In being a father, you make this task your top priority. Sometimes it feels as though your child is deliberately pushing our buttons. This causes us to be reactive and lose touch with our primary role as a patriarch. We start to make assumptions about the interaction, and this leads us,...